Probably my last post for the day, but this is one that has been bugging me for a WHILE now, so I need to get it out.
I don’t watch too much live TV these days. I’m rather addicted to “binge watching” on NetFlix or Amazon Prime. But, with my sports addicted DH there are plenty of times that “regular” TV is on. Plus, I am plenty guilty of just hitting the button on my way by, and half listening to whatever is on while I craft, clean, etc. (and we are not discussing my addiction to Days of Our Lives, we’re just not, okay?)
Now, that being said, I have my opinions on what the extreme feminist movement has done to the world, but THAT is for a different post. It is one I will address at some point, but it is not what I want to talk about here.
What I want to talk about here is, when did all the men in the world become bumbling idiots that can’t cook, clean, diaper a baby or generally function without something ridiculous happening?
Why do I ask? Well, have you watched “regular” TV lately? Most, and when I say most I mean close to 95%, of commercials, sitcoms, and even movies today portray men as something just evolved above neanderthal, maybe early Cro-Magnon man. They are either nothing but sexually charged idiots that chase anything with boobs, or so inept around the house they are congratulated for not burning the house down. *facedesk*
First off. I was raised by a stay at home DAD. Yes, my daddy is the one that was home with me from my birth until I was almost 8. Even after that he was the “primary parent” for lack of a better term. My dad is the one that taught me how to cook, how to do laundry, how to clean, and who is still the best soother for any fussy baby I have ever seen.
Secondly, I am married to man that cooks better than I do (now I can out bake him, no problem, but day to day cooking, he’s got me beat), cleans without complaint (and very well, he’s a lil OCD *giggles*) and although I don’t let him touch the laundry (I’m strangely picky about how laundry is done, but I have clothes in great shape that are more than 10 years old, so it’s for a reason) he would do laundry in a heartbeat if I needed help. He has been up in the middle of the night with fussy and sick kids, been with me at the hospital (even if he hates hospitals with a passion) when our son was born and when he had surgery. We co-parent. Because we are both parents. I did not magically get pregnant and have children. Not that I am by any stretch dissing single parents, so please don’t think I am, but it takes two people. At least! My dad helps, my in-laws help, I have close friends and we all gladly share advice, babysitting, teenager wrangling, etc.
Anyway, I digress.
Why do we consistently emasculate men on TV and in Movies, and then expect them to stand up and be men? Maybe I’m old fashioned. But in my book, men are supposed to hold open doors, do the heavy lifting and be MEN. Do I think my dad is any less of a man because he stayed home with us? Absolutely not. I completely understand the situation and why they chose to do things the way they did. But seriously, how do we expect to portray them as incapable of something as simple as making pigs in a blanket, but then expect them to stand up and be manly. Last time I checked, wrapping little hot dogs in crescent rolls and sticking them in an oven doesn’t not take a genius IQ, nor does it make anyone less of a man.
Just in case you aren’t quite sure, I copied the Bing dictionary definition of emasculate:
- castrate somebody: to remove the testicles of a male human being or animal
- weaken somebody or something: to deprive somebody or something of effectiveness, spirit, or force
- remove stamens from flower: to remove the male reproductive organs stamens from a flower, e.g. to prevent self-pollination
The second definition is the one that truly speaks to me here. Men want to feel manly. Ladies, let them hold open the doors, take the car for an oil change (or change it themselves), and do various home repairs. Or whatever they want to do. It’s okay for them to get into sports and yell at the TV when their team is losing, it’s what they do. Don’t like it? Tough, get a hobby or learn to like sports. It’s okay for them to drool over the hot chick in the latest Bond flick. Guess what, he’s just drooling, you know who’s bed he gets into every night, deal with it and stop being so insecure. Men are men. They like women (and yes I’m speaking about straight men before any of my gay friends get huffy). They like sports (most of the time). They like cars, or action movies, or radio controlled stuff, or video games. Most men, in some way, are nothing more than grown up 13 year old boys. And that’s okay! It’s what they are! We love them. But, love doesn’t mean change.
Does it drive me nuts sometimes when DH is watching sports and yelling/cheering at the TV and it makes me jump? Yeah sometimes, but it’s something he loves and is passionate about. So, put in the earbuds or go in the other room, there is no rule that I have to sit through every game he wants to watch, just like he doesn’t have to sit through a single episode of Cutthroat Kitchen with me. Is it okay that even all these years later DH still has the hots for Alyssa Milano? Of course, he doesn’t say a word while I’m drooling away over Christian Kane, or Chris Hemsworth or um.. anyway lol. Because again, I am married to HIM he is married to ME. I am secure in our relationship. As is he.
So, stop being insecure. Stop thinking you have to have a man to be a woman. Stop worrying all the time that you’re going to lose him because he looks at a girls butt or boobs when he sees them. Deal with it. I’m not saying deal with it if he’s a cheater, but that’s NOT what I’m talking about. I’m talking about men being men. Let them be men. Being independent is great, but there is also nothing wrong with leaning on your man either.
Anyway, I’ll stop the ramble here. Think about it tho, if you want a man, treat him as one! Smile!! It will make your day better, and just might make it better for someone else too!