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Happy Anniversary Star Trek!

Hello my lovely readers!!

I know, I know, it has been absolutely AGES since we chatted. I do have good reason though, and I’m sure you can guess what it is! BUSY!! The summer flew by way too fast, and here we are again, September! School has started, dance has started, and I am generally doing my usual running around like a headless chicken. Especially now that DD is attending our local Technical College (going for her AA before transferring to a 4 year), as well as she has a part time job in a local shop! My car and I are becoming close and personal friends, that is for sure.

I will get you all a crafty update soon, but since I have a gift I haven’t given yet that I want to show off, I will wait until the new mama is ready for a visit before I share what crafty things I have done.

I wanted to take the time to update you on a few things going on, and then get to the true reason behind this post.

School is going really well for me, As of today, I have 12 weeks left. Two weeks in my current class, and then two more five week classes after then. Then I can get my certifications, and hopefully go back to being at least somewhat gainfully employed! I am still maintaining that 4.0 GPA, I have been working very hard to keep. I thought Anatomy and Physiology were going to be my downfall, but I still managed to finish both with 4.0s. Let that be a lesson to you all, don’t be scared to go back to school. I’ve managed it, even with everything else going on, so you can too!

I have also become slightly involved with a few other projects, one very Trek related, and one slightly so. I will do a separate post for each of them, but please, check out these websites for me, sign up, etc etc. I will talk more about both of them soon. First is The Circuit, a rather fascinating project coming from the mind of Manu Intiraymi (Icheb on Voyager, as well as many other projects). The other is one of my favorite podcasts Women at Warp, they are a great bunch of women, and talk a lot of great Trek on their podcasts. Sign up on the websites, join the WaW’s patreon, get ready for The Circuit’s kickstarter, and of course, just share, share, share! Social media is such a powerful tool! Like the Facebook pages, follow the Twitter feeds, etc etc.

Okay, I’ve babbled enough. I am writing this a bit ahead of time, but it is scheduled to post on the morning of September 8th. To me, and millions around the world, that is an important date, because on that date, 50 years ago in 1966, our science fiction world was changed, for the better, forever. Yep, I am being THAT geeky, and saying, Happy 50th Anniversary, Star Trek.

The reason, for me anyway, that I am so happy about this date, is because Star Trek actually means quite a lot to me. To go WAY back (early 80s here people, I’m OLD don’t ya know lol) I remember watching the re-runs of The Original Series, with my dad. I have vivid memories of the movies (Star Trek IV: The Voyage Home still my favorite to this day), and I remember being curled up on the couch next to dad when The Next Generation PREMIERED. I remember introducing a friend in middle school to TNG, and well, lol, she’s been to more conventions than I can ever DREAM of going to. Now, for me, especially as a girl in the late 80s and early 90s, you didn’t talk about being a Trek fan unless you wanted a black eye and your lunch money stolen. Especially when I changed from the small private school I attended 7th-9th grades, and started at the (in my perspective at the time) HUGE public high school in 10th grade. I actually worked SO HARD to fit in there, that I gave up Trek. I stopped watching TNG, DS9, and didn’t even SEE an Episode of Voyager or Enterprise, until…

About 5 years ago, I was let go (downsizing, yay -.-) from my part time job. After much discussion with my DH, we decided it was time for me to do what I’d always wanted, and stay home for the kiddos. It was really great, let me tell you. Laundry was caught up for the first time in YEARS. The house was clean, the kids were always at school on time, and picked up on time. But. Especially the first few months (before DS started doing school at home, virtually), I was BORED. Like, I had NO CLUE what to do with myself. I did all these projects, and once I finished, I was like “crap, now what?” Sounds silly, but when you’re as introverted and socially awkward as I am, it’s not like I had a huge circle of friends to go and do “mom stuff” with while the kids are at school. I of course turned to my love of crafting, and you all have watched my progress on that here, but I’ve never been one to just sit and craft. I like to watch TV, or movies, or listen to a book, or something! So, trusty Netflix, here I come. And then I realized, while scrolling through and making my personal watch list, they have ALL. THE. TREK. And so I think to myself, “hmm, might be fun to re-watch the TOS and TNG, and maybe see what these others are about.” I mean I hadn’t even really HEARD of Voyager, and had no CLUE Enterprise even existed at this point. None. Seriously. I had pushed myself away from all things “geeky” so hard, that I didn’t even know about it. So, added them all to my list and dove in.

Now, I’ve kind of danced around it, but I’ll be completely honest here. I was DOWN. You could even say depressed. I’d worked all of my adult life, and I didn’t realize until after I wasn’t working that it was a huge part of my identity. I had not been without a job, (minus 6 weeks, but I was so busy looking for a job, that it felt like a job), ever, since I was 17. I really had no clue what to do with myself. I did stuff. It’s not like I sat around, but I gained 20 pounds, and was somewhat going through the motions of life.

So, I decided to watch ALL of the series (I mean all, even the Animated), as well as the movies, in kind of chronological order of release. Yes, I know that’s not the “best” way to do it, because it’s not chronological according to the Star Trek timeline, but it worked. So, I dove in. I went, to the best of my recollection anyway (see “translation” of abbreviations below) TOS, TAS, Movies 1-6, TNG, Moves 7-10, DS9, VOY, ENT. Now, I started all of this when I was first home. It was great to have in the background as I cleaned out closets, and de-cluttered kids’ rooms, and things like that. By the time I got to VOY, most of that was done, and I was pretty much at my lowest. Feeling lost, and down, and lonely. Don’t get me wrong here folks, I had purpose in life, but it was at this point my initial excitement of being a stay at home mom was wearing thin. I still loved it, I still do to this day, but once I tackled all the big projects, I was lost. It was around this time that I started really sitting and crafting a lot all day. Crochet and cross stitch mostly, although I dabbled in jewelry and a few other things. Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is since VOY was completely new to me (I had seen bits and pieces of DS9 over the years) it was the one that I really sat and WATCHED. Not just “have on in the background” but really paid attention to it. It gave me… I don’t even know, but it unlocked something for me. That is where I really regained my love of all things Trek. To this day VOY is still my all time favorite, as a whole series.

BUT

You know even as a 30 something year old woman, I was still almost ashamed of my love of Trek? I didn’t go to websites, I didn’t talk about it in public, I didn’t really tell anyone what I was so into and loving so much. It really wasn’t until this past year or so, as I re-watch again (this time in kind of chronological order, and I’ve skipped some of the movies, and the animated, at the time of this writing, I’m in Season 6 of DS9), I’ve really dove in. I am listening to podcasts (mostly the aforementioned WaW, and EngagePod, but some of the Trek.fm stuff too), I am following just about everybody I can think of on Twitter, and some on Facebook. I read articles, I post stuff, I “talk back” to the podcasts (no I’m not insane, I’m just weird), I get weirdly excited when I get a reply or like on Twitter from these actors and actresses. I am planning to (once school is done, and work is happening again) on saving up to actually GO to conventions, things like that.

I’ve talked about it before, but Wil Wheaton’s “nerd speech” from Denver Comic Con a few years ago is STILL something I watch regularly. That speech, has helped me more than I can even begin to explain. Trek has helped me even more than I can explain. Yes, my wonderful husband and awesome kids were there when I was down, but Trek has become my “comfy” place. I read an article a few months ago about how re-watching TV shows or movies, or re-reading books is actually healthy because of the familiarity can be calming. That is a great explanation. Trek for me has become that comfy chair, with your favorite blanket, and softest pajamas.

So, thanks for reading, my lovely readers. Happy Anniversary, Star Trek. Thank you for all you’ve done, and will continue to do, for at least another 50 years.

*EDIT* Forgot about the abbreviations!
TOS: The Original Series
TAS: The Animated Series
TNG: Star Trek: The Next Generation
DS9: Star Trek: Deep Space Nine
VOY: Star Trek: Voyager
ENT: Star Trek: Enterprise


Life as a Wife of a Type 1 Diabetic

I started this a couple years ago, and put it to the side. I feel the need to finish it now though, and hope it will explain a few things. I know this isn’t my usual crafty stuff, and I’ll get an update on that soon too, but this needed to happen first.

Many of you lovely readers that know me, know that DH is a Type 1 Diabetic. Diagnosed right before Halloween when he was 11 years old. Learned how to give himself shots, check his blood sugar, got lists and lists of “dos and don’ts”, and got chased around by nurses trying to get him to eat peaches *giggles*

Before this diagnosis, he was an aspiring hockey player (he is from the frozen Midwest after all) with not a care in the world (as any 11 year old should be). Now we have a son, not much older than that, I can’t even begin to imagine.

As a wife though, from the time I found out (funny story there), to now, I have given shots, spoon fed Lucky Charms, waited anxiously through tests, two eye surgeries, a hernia surgery, and dug through grocery store shelves to find that ONE bag of fruit gummies (his favorite low blood sugar treat) with more of his favorite flavor, and that’s just a tiny piece of it. Because, I love him, and I married him the man, NOT the disease.

Now, to the part that will probably get me LOTS of comments and such. If you are a Type 2 diabetic, go away. No offense intended, at all, but in 80-95% of cases, you can get rid of your diabetes (to those in the small percentages, I’m not talking to you). Type 1’s cannot. Ever. It doesn’t matter if they are under, over, or a perfect weight, doesn’t matter if they adhere to the strictest of diets, doesn’t matter WHAT they do. T1D will ALWAYS be there.

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I know it seems harsh to say “go away”. But seriously people. There are ways to keep T2D under control to the point of no medication (and before I get blasted, yes I know there is a percentage of people this is not the case for, but you aren’t the ones I’m talking to), or gone completely by doing what your doctors, nurses, exercise coaches, and nutritionists tell you.

All that being said. I’ve read some disturbing statistics over the years. The rate of T1D diagnoses has gone up 23% in the US between 2001 – 2009. Also, I believe it’s somewhere in the 80% range of the funding for diabetes research goes to Type 2, NOT type 1. That being said, if you want to help, http://www.JDRF.org is the place to go. They are dedicated solely to finding a cure for T1D. Push your local and federal leaders to support JDRF and increase the funding to find a cure for this.

My DH has been very blessed. No major problems from his diabetes. One eye has a few issues, he’s had some mild neuropathy. We are exploring options of a cure called Islet Cell Transplantation. It involves surgery, and time away from home, and a myriad of things I won’t get into right now.

What I do want to talk about though, as delicately as I can, without giving away too much information is this. Diabetes not only controls a good chunk of our lives. Not only is factored into every single decision we make. Not only is why I always carry I bigger purse, and snacks everywhere we go. Not only is why we don’t travel much. Not only is all of these things. But it is expensive. We have watched over the years the prices of all the needed medications rise steadily, and rapidly, over the past 15 years. At scary rates. For example:

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The second two listed? Those are two of the many prescriptions we buy a month. Not in vial form, and yes, we have insurance. And no, we can’t skip it. Yes, we have skipped other things to pay for this though. Average medical costs per month for us can be upwards of $400. That is prescriptions, alcohol swabs, special foods, doctor’s visits, lab work bills… I think you get the idea. And that’s assuming there are no major problems, and we keep him out of the doctor’s office (or worse, the hospital) for viruses, bacterial infections, and the like. (which by the way, if you’re sick, go away and don’t breathe on me or him, and as much as we care about you, no we will not come visit you in the hospital lol)

So, to all those people that say, “why don’t you get DS more private lessons?”, “what about this or that summer intensive?”, “how about these shoes, tights, clothes?” or sympathetic looks when I say my DD is doing technical college before transferring to a four year, like I’m doing something wrong. When I say back, “no sorry, we can’t.” or “only if there is a scholarship for it.” or “thank goodness my dad is willing to pay for this or that”. I’m not kidding. I’m not lazy. I home-school my DS, keep up with the house and laundry, taxi both kids everywhere they need to go in my 10 year old car, am taking 24 college credits from March to November (that’s 3 credit hours every 5 weeks, or the equivalent of two full 12 credit hour semesters in about 8 months with no breaks. None, seriously, I will finish a class on a Monday and start a new one on a Tuesday), and am seriously looking at any offer of a job, even if it’s bagging groceries.

And you know what. I’m not ashamed. Not of my circumstances. I’m a bit embarrassed for everyone that thinks I should be “doing better”. But you know what? I am happy. I am stressed out sometimes, and seriously wish I would manage to land a winning lottery ticket some days, but I am happy. My kids are happy. My husband is alive, and as healthy as can be expected. All I’m hoping for is a little more understanding. A little less, “oh you all should do this, that, or travel here or there.” It sounds great, it really does, but that’s not where my priorities are. My priorities are educating my children, getting my own education, and keeping my husband as healthy as possible for as long as possible.

Is it really necessary for me to “tell the world” all of this? Nope. But I am tired of people not understanding. I’m tired of trying to make excuses for reasons we can’t go somewhere, or do something. I’m tired of trying to justify why my hubby is sick again (please, PLEASE stop spreading your germs, or just assuming it’s faking, or assuming he’s lazy, or just thinking he’s not doing something, trust me, daily vitamins and pro-biotics on top of all his regular meds are keeping him as healthy as he is, imagine how sick he would be if he didn’t do everything he does) And please understand. Sometimes there is NOTHING we can do. He can eat perfectly, take perfect doses of insulin, everything right, and there are STILL going to be days that sugars go high, or low, or whatever. There are many things that can happen when it does, and the effects can last for a day or two, as well. I will leave you with a little chart that is just a small glimpse of what my darling husband, goes through, sometimes daily…

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Updates, Musings, and Random Ramblings…

So… yeah, it’s been a while. I know I kept saying how busy I was over the summer… well… it got about a million times worse.

Early August we went up to visit family in Michigan. Had an AMAZING time, ate too much, walked a LOT, spent some amazing time with friends and family.

The day after we got back DS started back into dance full time. Four classes a week, plus privates, and now, rehearsals.

A week after that, both DD and DS started back to school. DD with her senior year and DS with 7th (still at home with me online).

THEN, a week after that I started back to school. Only two classes this semester (I wasn’t completely crazy!) and both online.

*whew*

Okay. THEN, September kinda went somewhere. It’s mostly a blur of school and classes and driving.

Now here is October. Let’s just break it down into bullet points.

  • We moved. Not far, but still, we moved.
  • I fell down the last three steps of the attic stairs and sprained my ankle.
  • I’m not 100% sure where anything is at the moment.
  • Last but not least… we’ve had four days of sun in the last three weeks. Yes, we are in SC (for those of you that don’t remember) and very very very blessed and lucky to not have been troubled by any of the flooding. Okay. Let me rephrase. I’m popping Vitamin D like it’s candy, and I’m so sick of everything being damp, but house is fine, car is fine,we are fine.

Oh and did I mention it’s only the 10th? *facedesk*

Midterm for one class was supposed to be this past week, it’s this coming up week now. (The city has been well.. shut down for the past week).

Now. There are a zillion gofundme pages for different people, families, organizations going right now because of the flood. If you can’t do much but want to give money, I’m going to point out two things. One, the Red Cross is always taking money. They are a decent organization, and have been here since day one. The other, is more for personal reasons. The “other” ballet company in our city lost EVERYTHING. I mean… EVERYTHING. They had JUST renovated their studio, and by the second day of flooding they had water 8 feet up the wall. EIGHT. FEET. Costumes, music, posters, brand new flooring… everything gone. They have set up a gofundme page here: https://www.gofundme.com/CCBFlood if you can, and feel so inclined, please donate. They are trying to salvage what costumes and things that they can, but as a lot of you fellow crafty type people out there know, fabrics that have been soaked, especially the lighter, airy fabrics used for costumes, (and soaked in not very clean water…) are nearly impossible to salvage.

If dance isn’t your thing, by all means, I’m sure if you google “go fund me columbia sc flood” or “go fund me south carolina flood” you’ll find dozens of pages. Pick one and help some one out.

As for my crafting… yes, I am still doing some… well I have been. I will do my best in the next couple of weeks to get pictures and updates out to you. I have managed to squeeze in some Christmas crafting while doing everything else (and before you get any big ideas, I take the time I sit at studios to crochet, nothing fancy and I’m not super woman I promise). And I will get some pictures out of that, and just know, if you open a box and see something I’ve posted here, just pretend to be surprised lol.

Don’t forget I do still have my Etsy site up and running. I did make a sale the other day! lol Nothing big, but it made me happy. The link is in the “about” tab up top (you’ll have to click it to see it) and by all means, give me a favorite or even better buy something *giggles*.

Okies, I am exhausted and should prop up this ankle of mine (it’s better but still pretty swollen and LOTS of prettily colored bruises everywhere). Keep smiling, keep crafting, and pray for SUN! ❤


Kids, Public Spaces and Manners

Hello my lovely readers. Today is a non crafty post, more of a vent today lol.

I started thinking about this one a couple weeks ago when a friend of mine, after going to a local university baseball game, went with her DH to a local restaurant. They were seated in a section, where near the end of their meal, two couples with some children were seated. The adults took a table, and sat having drinks and socializing, while the children took another, and then coats etc were piled on a third table. The children proceeded to run amok, doing as they please, without a word from the adults in charge. So, essentially, kids are being disruptive, and this group of 8 or so people (adults and children total) took three tables in a section with no regard to anyone else.

Okay. First things first. No, this was not a “children’s” restaurant. Meaning, it wasn’t the big mouse pizza place where kids are expected to run around. This was a sit down, with waiter/waitress, order from a menu, serves adult beverages type of place. Near a large University, employing mostly college aged people for their wait staff. Family friendly, sure, caters to kids specifically, no.

I understand wanting to go out. Have some time with your friends, enjoy an adult beverage or two, let the kids hang out. I really do understand. I am a mom of two, and just because you’ve created life, doesn’t mean your social life is required to go out the window. I know not every child can sit through a meal. I think they should be taught to, but I understand, in some circumstances, that isn’t possible. (But, in my not so humble opinion, if your child isn’t capable of this, get a sitter and go alone or don’t go to a place where a child running about is going to cause a problem to the other people there). There have been plenty of times in life I have either declined an invitation for a meal out, or stayed behind while the rest go out, or sat in the car during a meal because of a particularly fussy child.

Now, before anyone starts reading me the riot act. Please understand. I am not saying this just because of the comfort of other diners. There is also a HUGE safety issue here. I’m sure we’ve all been somewhere, where something similar has happened; where literally small (toddler, preschool, early elementary aged) children are running around. I mean out of their seats, chasing each other, running around. I know kids at that age. Not only are they not always very spatially aware, but they see the world from 4 feet down and below. Meaning, that they are not necessarily going to see your 6 foot tall waiter with a tray full of hot food, come around the corner before it’s too late. And, unfortunately, in this litigious society we are in, there are going to be times when mom and dad are going to be on the phone with the lawyer suing the restaurant. I know some of you are thinking “no they wouldn’t, it wasn’t the restaurant’s fault!”, but um, yeah, remember the when someone sued because they got burned, by HOT COFFEE? Yeah, they won that one. So yeah, it can happen. It probably has.

Now, I know DH and I are strict. We expect our children to behave properly when out in public. We expect, “please”, “thank you”, “yes sir/ma’am” etc. We also expect them to pick a reasonable food choice from the menu, and place their own order with the waiter/waitress. Yes, I have left the grocery store because of a misbehaving child. Yes, I have sat in the car with a fussy baby so the rest of the family could finish their meal in peace. Because, I understand that the world does not revolve around me, my wants, and my desires, and that it’s completely unfair, not only to the other diners, but the staff as well to have a massive distraction, or unpleasantness in their section.

All this being said. It is our job as parents to train our children. Sorry, you raise crops, you train children. Babies are born with nothing but natural instinct, it is our job to teach them how to be civilized and eventually productive members of society. You can not do this by being your kids’ best friend. You can not do this by just expecting them to know what to do. You can not do this by allowing behaviors you don’t like to continue without doing something about it. You can not do this by worrying about hurting their feelings, again, you are the parent, NOT the friend. You can not do this by threatening punishments, but never following through. It doesn’t work. Are my kids perfect? No where close. Do I usually receive compliments on their behavior? Yes. Do I deal with it when I don’t? Absolutely.

I am the first to admit, that there are times, I really don’t like other people’s kids. This is because, I expect all children to behave with the manners appropriate to their age (mental and/or physical). So, when I am met with rude, un-mannered, misbehaving children, all I want to do is get away. It’s why I don’t teach. I was raised to respect my elders, use my manners, and keep quiet when adults are trying to have a conversation. There are times I see how some children speak to their parents or other adults in charge and I’m stunned because I would have never spoken to an adult that way, nor would I allow my children to. I still wouldn’t speak to someone else, just another human being, in the manner that some children do today. I’d be too embarrassed.

Anyway, I’ll get off my soapbox for today. Just think about it. (also, side note, if you don’t have kids, don’t give advice, unless you have a degree in early childhood education or child psychology, k thanks) I’ve seen the meme plenty of times, “Forget about what kind of world we are leaving for our children, what kind of children are we leaving for the world”.

Smile everybody! It helps you and just might help someone else!


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