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Being okay with being me

I sit here tonight, rather content. Is my life perfect? Oh hellll no. lol I have a new class starting tomorrow for school (anatomy and physiology I, and yes I’m scared), there’s laundry in the dryer, a barely started afghan on my hook, a cross stitch that hasn’t been touched in weeks, I should probably vacuum, and I really need to sort my closet.

But…

What’s had this post on my brain for a while now, has been this video. I will admit to being a huge Wil Wheaton fan. Ever since I was a little girl, not quite nine years old, curled up on the couch against my daddy’s side, watching “Encounter at Farpoint” for the first time, I thought Mr. Wheaton was the COOLEST person ever. He was a TEENAGER (which at not-quite-nine is a big deal) and he was ON STAR TREK. The NEW Star Trek. The first NEW Star Trek series in AGES (my earliest ST memories are of IV: The Voyage Home, yes I’d seen most of them, but for whatever reason IV is the one that sticks in my brain as the first movie I remember). So, all of that being said, when I was that not quite nine year old little girl, Mr. Wheaton was very, very cool. (by the way if you want to find out how cool of a person he still is, go here, he does podcasts and blogging things and just cool stuffs. Speaking of podcasts, can someone explain these to me? I have an iPhone and obviously internet, but I’m not quite sure what I do to listen/watch to these things… so help an “old lady” out here).

Then that nine year old little girl grew up into a rather shy, introverted, awkward, teenager… I tried really, REALLY, hard to fit in. I was in marching band, I changed that to JROTC (which actually was a great idea because I don’t know if I would have graduated if I hadn’t), I had friends here and there, but no one I was ever really close to. Yes, even today I have some people I knew in high school on Facebook and such, but, I was never really super close with anyone, and I’m still not. After being laughed at, or worse, bullied (at times rather severely), for being smart, liking to read, liking all the things I like (the list is long, but I’ll get to that), I tried to hide it. I tried to “give up” the things I liked. Seriously. I stopped watching ST:TNG, never watched an episode of DS9, Voyager, or Enterprise, when they first were on air. Never saw another movie in the theater. I gave it all up. (and Star Trek isn’t all of it, never watched Stargate, or Eureka, or Warehouse 13, or ANYTHING sci-fi related at all, more on that in a bit)

I hid how smart I was (and really, I’m not THAT smart). I wouldn’t read in public. Missed a lot of really cool stuff. Never went to a DragonCon in Atlanta (usually that’s the closest Con of any interest to me here in SC) or any other Con for that matter. (Still on my bucket list, but I’ll get there). I hid the fact that I loved Animaniacs, and Batman:The Animated Series (that IS where I found Harley after all, WAY before she was “cool” and Suicide Squad was a thing). I didn’t talk about growing up on Star Wars (my R2D2 underoos ROCKED thank-you-very-much), Star Trek (TOS and the movies, and TNG until I got “too cool”), Buckaroo Bonzai (still John Lithgow’s best role if I do say so)… I didn’t talk about how much I loved Stephen King, and Dean Koontz, and Robin Cook (they made you THINK), as well as Anne McCaffrey (dragons, DUH). Instead I tried to dislike all of that stuff, and like all the “cool” stuff. I tried. I failed. I liked rock and alternative and metal (I also have a deep love of classical, and was a trained pianist at one point in my life). I couldn’t get into pop and country (hey I am in the south, that was the “thing”).

So, I kind of wandered and did my own thing, and kept who I was to myself. I didn’t talk about what I liked, and would just smile and nod when my friends would get excited about what they were into. I would watch the popular movies, listen to the Top 40 stations, and just kind of exist.

So… anyway… onward…

I play it off well, but I am severely introverted. I could literally go days without ever leaving the house and be perfectly content. I struggle with reaching out to people, I struggle with making plans, and if I do make them, I struggle with following through with them. I am really good at excuses. That sounds horrible I know. It’s not always excuses either, I do have things that come up, life happens! I will admit that sometimes though, it is an excuse. Thankfully I have a couple of wonderful friends, and a great husband, that don’t give me too much shit about it either.

I really do have a point, bear with me, I’m getting there, I promise…

Within the last five years or so ago, I slowly started realizing that I can like what I like. Netflix has been the BEST thing ever. Really. That’s sounds crazy, but I’m quite serious. With the digital streaming service, I have been able to watch every single Star Trek episode and movie I’ve wanted. (okay, almost, the newest reboot of the Star Trek movies aren’t all available on Netflix yet, but I’ll get to it eventually). Not just all the ST series either, (and sorry to everybody, as much as TNG has a very special place in my heart, Voyager is my hands down favorite), but Charmed, Buffy, Angel, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Firefly, Haven, Eureka, Warehouse 13, and I’m sure more that I’ve lost track of.

Not long after I started binge watching (Hi, my name is Becca, and I binge watch on Netflix and Amazon), I found the video I mentioned at the beginning of this. I am woman enough to admit that the first time I watched it, I cried. Here was Mr. Wheaton, a man I’d hero-worshiped as an 8 year old girl (and sorry Anne, had a bit of a crush on, too), telling me that I AM OKAY. So… silly little fan girl that I am, loaded up my twitter again, and started following all kinds of my favorite people. Too many to name, but I’ve had some “follow backs” myself that have made me grin like a crazy person, as well as replies and likes from several of my favorite people. I’ve had brief Facebook chats with some truly awesome people (more on that in the future, maybe 😉 ).

I tweet and Facebook about new projects coming up, sharing memes and seeing fun stuff. I laugh, I smile, I read blogs and articles, sign up for newsletters and generally enjoy myself and all the geekness I can handle. I look at pictures from conventions, I smile at Mr. Auberjonois’ bucket pictures. I giggle when Jeri Ryan and Robert Picardo tease each other. I try not to swoon too much when I get a like, or a reply.

And then, as I’m writing, Jeri Ryan posts this meme:

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And well, it’s kind of my whole point. I’m letting my weird light shine bright. I’m here. I’m shy. I’m socially awkward. I may stutter, shake, giggle in weird places, or smile way too much, but I’m a weirdo. And I’m okay with that.

So, to Mr. Wheaton (and his lovely wife, Anne), Jeri Ryan, Terry Farrell, Gates McFadden, Sir Patrick Stewart, Michael Dorn, Marina Sirtis, Rene Auberjonois, Manu Intiraymi, Robert Picardo, Brent Spiner, Eddie McClintock, Connor Trineer, Jolene Blalock, and so many many many more, THANK YOU. You all have been massively patient with us crazy fans. I know there are “bad eggs” out there, but you still continue to be patient with us, even if we are annoying. ❤

(P.S. I will get back to my crafty updates soon, I promise, I do have things to show off there)

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Star Trek: Voyager Review

Okay, so this was the next full series I watched when I started my binge watching habits.

Personally, and I get a lot of crap about this.

but…

THIS IS THE BEST ONE.

I can’t explain exactly why. I could be Captain Janeway (Kate Mulgrew), it could have been the crazy story lines. It could have been the interesting love stories. It could have been anything. From the episode where Janeway and Chakotay have to stay behind on a planet. To the reappearance of Q, and then his son. To all the crazy alternate universes. And, of course we can’t forget Reg lol.

The only complaint I have is the end. I wanted more. Now, this wasn’t the usual pouting that it was over, but COME ON. They made it BACK. Can we have a party or SOMETHING?!?! Can we see Tom and his dad reunite? Can we let them all meet Reg and Deanna? What did the destruction of the big Borg transport really mean?

I won’t give away much more, but if this is one you didn’t watch because you couldn’t get into it, give it another go. It’s worth it. I do give 5 out of 5 stars even if I was left wanting more at the end.


Television/Commercials and How it’s Killing the Men

Probably my last post for the day, but this is one that has been bugging me for a WHILE now, so I need to get it out.

I don’t watch too much live TV these days. I’m rather addicted to “binge watching” on NetFlix or Amazon Prime. But, with my sports addicted DH there are plenty of times that “regular” TV is on. Plus, I am plenty guilty of just hitting the button on my way by, and half listening to whatever is on while I craft, clean, etc. (and we are not discussing my addiction to Days of Our Lives, we’re just not, okay?)

Now, that being said, I have my opinions on what the extreme feminist movement has done to the world, but THAT is for a different post. It is one I will address at some point, but it is not what I want to talk about here.

What I want to talk about here is, when did all the men in the world become bumbling idiots that can’t cook, clean, diaper a baby or generally function without something ridiculous happening?

Why do I ask? Well, have you watched “regular” TV lately? Most, and when I say most I mean close to 95%, of commercials, sitcoms, and even movies today portray men as something just evolved above neanderthal, maybe early Cro-Magnon man. They are either nothing but sexually charged idiots that chase anything with boobs, or so inept around the house they are congratulated for not burning the house down. *facedesk*

First off. I was raised by a stay at home DAD. Yes, my daddy is the one that was home with me from my birth until I was almost 8. Even after that he was the “primary parent” for lack of a better term. My dad is the one that taught me how to cook, how to do laundry, how to clean, and who is still the best soother for any fussy baby I have ever seen.

Secondly, I am married to man that cooks better than I do (now I can out bake him, no problem, but day to day cooking, he’s got me beat), cleans without complaint (and very well, he’s a lil OCD *giggles*) and although I don’t let him touch the laundry (I’m strangely picky about how laundry is done, but I have clothes in great shape that are more than 10 years old, so it’s for a reason) he would do laundry in a heartbeat if I needed help. He has been up in the middle of the night with fussy and sick kids, been with me at the hospital (even if he hates hospitals with a passion) when our son was born and when he had surgery. We co-parent. Because we are both parents. I did not magically get pregnant and have children. Not that I am by any stretch dissing single parents, so please don’t think I am, but it takes two people. At least! My dad helps, my in-laws help, I have close friends and we all gladly share advice, babysitting, teenager wrangling, etc.

Anyway, I digress.

Why do we consistently emasculate men on TV and in Movies, and then expect them to stand up and be men? Maybe I’m old fashioned. But in my book, men are supposed to hold open doors, do the heavy lifting and be MEN. Do I think my dad is any less of a man because he stayed home with us? Absolutely not. I completely understand the situation and why they chose to do things the way they did. But seriously, how do we expect to portray them as incapable of something as simple as making pigs in a blanket, but then expect them to stand up and be manly. Last time I checked, wrapping little hot dogs in crescent rolls and sticking them in an oven doesn’t not take a genius IQ, nor does it make anyone less of a man.

Just in case you aren’t quite sure, I copied the Bing dictionary definition of emasculate:

  • e·mas·cu·late
  1. castrate somebody: to remove the testicles of a male human being or animal
  2. weaken somebody or something: to deprive somebody or something of effectiveness, spirit, or force
  3. remove stamens from flower: to remove the male reproductive organs stamens from a flower, e.g. to prevent self-pollination

The second definition is the one that truly speaks to me here. Men want to feel manly. Ladies, let them hold open the doors, take the car for an oil change (or change it themselves), and do various home repairs. Or whatever they want to do. It’s okay for them to get into sports and yell at the TV when their team is losing, it’s what they do. Don’t like it? Tough, get a hobby or learn to like sports. It’s okay for them to drool over the hot chick in the latest Bond flick. Guess what, he’s just drooling, you know who’s bed he gets into every night, deal with it and stop being so insecure. Men are men. They like women (and yes I’m speaking about straight men before any of my gay friends get huffy). They like sports (most of the time). They like cars, or action movies, or radio controlled stuff, or video games. Most men, in some way, are nothing more than grown up 13 year old boys. And that’s okay! It’s what they are! We love them. But, love doesn’t mean change.

Does it drive me nuts sometimes when DH is watching sports and yelling/cheering at the TV and it makes me jump? Yeah sometimes, but it’s something he loves and is passionate about. So, put in the earbuds or go in the other room, there is no rule that I have to sit through every game he wants to watch, just like he doesn’t have to sit through a single episode of Cutthroat Kitchen with me. Is it okay that even all these years later DH still has the hots for Alyssa Milano? Of course, he doesn’t say a word while I’m drooling away over Christian Kane, or Chris Hemsworth or um.. anyway lol. Because again, I am married to HIM he is married to ME. I am secure in our relationship. As is he.

So, stop being insecure. Stop thinking you have to have a man to be a woman. Stop worrying all the time that you’re going to lose him because he looks at a girls butt or boobs when he sees them. Deal with it. I’m not saying deal with it if he’s a cheater, but that’s NOT what I’m talking about. I’m talking about men being men. Let them be men. Being independent is great, but there is also nothing wrong with leaning on your man either.

Anyway, I’ll stop the ramble here. Think about it tho, if you want a man, treat him as one! Smile!! It will make your day better, and just might make it better for someone else too!


Yep, I’m that nerd.

Since it’s the weekend, how about something fun lol.

Yep, like I said, I am that nerd. I’ve watched, and I’m not kidding, literally, EVERY episode of Star Trek. (From the original series to Enterprise, in order, sort of) All the movies (except the most recent, which when it shows up on Netflix or Amazon, I’ll get there). I’ve argued who’s the best captain (Janeway is my favorite, which I know makes most people cringe), which series was best and why (TNG is near and dear to my heart, but Voyager and DS9 are close seconds). I’ve seen every Star Wars movie, more than once. All three Blade movies. Both Tomb Raiders. Pretty much all the Marvel and DC based movies. You get the idea.

I could start listing all the series I’ve binged watched on Netflix and Amazon, but I’d probably have to go back and look at my history *snorts* But, besides the Star Treks, to list a few, Eureka, Warehouse 13 (and yes I bounced up and down when Kate Mulgrew appeared), Haven, Angel, Buffy (YAY for Armin Shimerman as the principal lol)… You get the drift. (and yes I’m desperately awaiting Haven to get the latest season on Amazon or Netflix and for the final Season of Warehouse 13 to come out).

I’ve also read just about every thing Dean Koontz, Stephen King, Robin Cook, plus almost every Pern book both of the McCaffrey’s have published. Not to mention countless other authors, books, genres, etc etc etc.

I follow so many of the actors/authors on Twitter and Facebook, it’s not even funny. But, especially right now, with Destination Star Trek going on in Germany, I love all the pictures and stories that are being posted. Speaking of…

I’ve never been to a convention. No ComiCon, no DragonCon, no Star Trek Convention. Does it break my heart now even more that I missed the DragonCon with Anne McCaffrey. Yes. I wish I could have gone and had at least one of my copies of her books signed. I’ve never done CosPlay, I don’t own a single costume (unless you count my Harley Quinn shirt, yes, it’s black and red like her costume lol). To some people, this makes me “not a real nerd”. lol Apparently I have no “street cred” as a nerd. That’s okay though, just makes me giggle. (And a little green with envy when I see pictures of them at the various Con’s).

For a long time, I hid my love of things SciFi and Fantasy. LOL Because I was so worried what people would think. *facedesk* Yeah, I used to be one of those people. Don’t care anymore though. I proudly wear my Star Wars, Harley Quinn, or Big Bang Theory t shirts in public. I happily pour through the shelves at Hot Topic to find the latest tshirt/wallet/accessory/whatever lol.

I am also the one that will sit there an say or think “where do I know that actor from?” And typically after running off to IMDB, I find out they played some part in a Trek. Which is why I probably love Warehouse 13, so many actors from a lot of the Trek series make appearances (Rene Auberjonois to mention another). Or after watching Haven, then watching Buffy and realizing that Duke (Eric Balfour) from Haven was Xander’s (Nicholas Brendon) best bud Jesse in the first couple of Buffy episodes (who promptly got turned into a vamp and slayed, but still). Loved the cross overs between Eureka and Warehouse 13 (actually got into watching Warehouse 13 after seeing the episode with Claudia [Allison Scagliotti] in Eureka lol). I mean come on! Even Seth MacFarlane was in a couple of TNG episodes, and now Patrick Stewart does voices for him. lol It’s all interconnected.

As a kid, I wanted to be on Star Trek. Hoped that some day I’d be “discovered” lol (kinda hard if you don’t audition) and be on the show. Wow, yeah I really AM that nerd. But, the nice thing now, since my kids’ friends are into a lot of the same stuff I’m the “cool mom” that can talk Avengers, or Star Trek and actually know what I’m talking about. lol

On the flip side, I tried Battlestar Galactica (both old and new), couldn’t get into it (even if I did recognize one of the characters from Eureka lol). I also love all things Alton Brown, watch Food Network, and still have a slight addiction to Days of Our Lives. So shoot me. Which in some people’s eyes, again, makes me not “enough” of a nerd lol. Whatever, I love what I love and well, no one is making you watch it! (Hey even DH doesn’t share my love of it all).

I guess the point of all of this is, embrace what you love. If you love HGTV, then watch it, and be proud. If you love all things SciFi, then watch and be proud. It’s your opinion, not everybody is going to agree, and that’s okay. But, if you’ve never read a book or watched an episode of anything outside of your “comfort zone” try it! You never know what you might find that you like.

Most importantly smile. You never know, it will make your day better and just might make someone else feel better too.


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